My wife was sharing something new she learned while we were going out to eat one evening. She told me about a guy that just completed a successful marriage enrichment course and was attending a seminar where the speaker asked the audience what they thought the biggest cause of divorce was. Since this guy had just successfully completed a related course of study he proudly answered, “sex, money, and communication!” and the speaker’s voice boomed back a loud response of “wrong!” My wife asked me the same question before telling me the story and I thought communication was the right answer. I know I would have been embarrassed if that happened to me in an audience. The speaker’s answer was, “The reason marriages end up in divorced or dissolved is because of unmet expectations.”
When my wife told me this for some reason I could really understand the reason. It would not matter if it was a new client at the fitness center, someone single, married, young or old. I could see this relating to a lot of folks. In some cases I have seen clients come in and think that they will be able to sweat through 70% of some of the workouts and eat just about everything they want as long as they ate a salad at some point that week and then wonder if there is something medically wrong with them because in their mind they are “eating clean” and working out and they should be seeing some spectacular results.
Expectation – Observation = Frustration
Frustration = The difference of the two
To correct the frustration we must place our observation in front of our expectation. Remember life happens. Nothing stays the same and if you are following a plan just know at some point you need to be ready for something to come up and cause you to change. There is no such thing as a straight line to success. If you are expecting some form of results observe what it is going to take to get those results and know that there will have to be several changes in-between the time of commitment and the results one seeks.